Wednesday, 31 August 2016

You are not the door mat



There's this arty-farty Mainland China movie that I watched in Shanghai some years back that left a deep impression even now.

I normally prefer mindless action flicks; but this was an exception because of the actress. Yes, she is pretty.


The protagonist in the movie is an aspirant opera singer living in the shanty town suburbs of Beijing. 

The problem is...

She is way past her prime at 40 plus...

Plump.

And downright ugly... 


But that has never stopped her from taking part in opera singing competitions and auditioning for parts in operas. 

Rejections after rejections; she will cry her heart out. 


To pay for her living expenses, this opera aspirant gives singing lessons to the young 20 somethings who are chasing their own opera dreams.

When some of her young students managed to land small opera singing roles, you can see the internal struggles she had to grapple with... 

Behind the congratulatory smiles and words, there's this sourness that she is way better than her students at her craft, but why them but not her!?


Living in the shanty town has one benefit. Everyone is equally poor and down on their luck. So it natural to be the support network for each other.

One of her most ardent supporter is lounge hostess neighbour next door.

"Don't give up!"

"You can do it!"


One day, this lounge hostess' gigolo lover absconded with all her jewellery and life savings.

When the protagonist tried to console and give advice to her distraught neighbour, she was taken aback when the lounge hostess snapped back at her.


There and then, our opera singing aspirant had an epiphany!

She had been taken for a fool all this time...

So that's what her ever so kind and supportive neighbours really think of her behind her back! Everyone of them!

She's the door mat in their neighbourhood.


A  few days later, she moved out of the shanty town to pursue her dream in a new city.



Sunday, 28 August 2016

You are not a hammer






This Malaysian ad good!

They call it reaching out...

I prefer to call it - Listen.


I find this judgemental behaviour quite prevalent in our community.

Just because you seek "financial freedom" as a panacea to fill the hole in your heart, it does not mean everyone else are "nails" who need "hammering" too...


You can almost hear the seething anger as some share their frustrations when they failed in their attempt to evangelise the gospel of prosperity to their love ones or friends.

Don't they get it?

Money will solve everything!

Of course we know its crass to put money on our lips all the time; so we use euphemisms like financial freedom or independence to sugar-coat and hide the shallowness and emptiness we feel in the still of the night.


Next time you feel the urge to share your unsolicited supreme master of the universe version of how to save and invest your way to Nirvana 30 years into the future - stop.

Listen.

To listen, we must observe.

Maybe you'll discover this person is a screw?

And you only a hammer; not a screwdriver. Wink.


Yes, that's also probably why you struggling with your day job, or relationships in general.



First seek to understand; then to be understood.  

(7 habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey)








Thursday, 25 August 2016

Calm before the storm?



Ever had this feeling where you suddenly felt something is not right?

Like walking into a empty classroom or poking your head outside your cubicle and finding no one around!?


Well, I'm having my moment now.


The fisherman is out catching pokemons... Turning into 老玩童?

Butterfly has been under radio silence for quite a while... Kenna caught by spider? Oh! Its you 妹子... Good catch! Sorli, sorli... I'll close the door now; you both carry on...

The masked nudist has turned into Uncle Agony...

And where the hell has coconut AWOL to?


I know. Market boring...

There's only so much fun in me going around with a pin, pricking balloons full of hot air...


It seems those got patience are practicing 高山不动...

As for those 流水不安, make a guess what are they doing?






 



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